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| My daughter did the same thing when she was young. She even put her head through walls. Now she is an adult and doesn't head bang any more but she still has severe mood swings and addictive behaviours. When she was doing it doctors just would not listen and now I wonder if I had insisted on being referred to a Pediatrician or a psychologist would her behaviours be different now. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Hi I thought maybe you and alot of other people on here my need some advice. My son used to head but things that bad he nearly cracked his skull and I had to take him to hospital a couple of times. He doesn't do it anymore and he is only three years old now. All I can tell you is stop trying to stop them. Put your children in a safe place and walk away they will learn that you don't like it and they will grow out of it. Stop giving them attention for doing it you are backing it up. Ok I hope this helps. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I was a headbanger as a child. My parents had told me that the doctor said I was just rocking myself to sleep. Of course, that's a late 50's doctor. I always attributed my conduct to the treatment I received from my mother. She was hurtful and hateful. She regulary called us names and would work to humilate us in front of family, our childhood friends and adult role models. There was liberal use of direct obscenity and statements targeting physical limitations in her attacks. Commonly refering to us as stupid or undesired, of course using much more colorful and discriptive language. As adults my older sisters would cry and say "she was so mean to you". We matured with low self esteem and feelings of worthlessness. I spent each minute of school scared because I believed I wasn't as good or smart as the other children. I hestitated to write this, because I don't want to be perceived as whiny. I enjoy a good life and have a beautiful family. But still struggle to work through those same feelings today. I just can hide them better. I noticed a couple of messages have suggested headbanging could be a result of stress and depression. I thought perhaps it could be a small child's way of dealing with a difficult situation. So I want to put it out there. Did anyone else who was a headbanger as a child grow up in a similar environment? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My lil girl is 16 months old and she bangs her head so hard that it is leaving large bruises on her forehead we have tried every way of stopping her but she just won't. I don't understand it she shows no pain when she does it but she will do it anywhere even on the wall and concrete and sometimes she does it so fast that we have no chance to even stop her...please help? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Funny to think isn't it.but its not. actually i'm one of thosed people who used to headbanging and rocking myself to sleep when i was a kid.I remember everytime i wake up i sit in the coach and headbang my head.my mum used to stop me but she noticed i made it worst.then at night i used to rock my head to be able to sleep.My brother is like that too.before they said its one way of soothing yourself and calming from stress but i dont believe it i called it manerism.i guess time can only stop that kind of manerism.I stop doing it when i got married at 25 now im 31. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I'M A 25YRS.OLD FEMALE FROM N.Y. I'VE BEEN BANGING MY HEAD SINCE EARLY CHILDHOOD. I DONT KNOW WHY, BUT I DO KNOW ITS RELAXES ME. SOMEONE ONCE ASKED ME "HOW IS THAT RELAXING IF YOUR MOVING". ???? I DONT KNOW BUT ITS A WAY FOR ME TO SHUT EVEYONE OUT AND JUST THINK. I USE TO BANG MY FOREDEAD ON MY PILLOW BUT THEN I NOTICED A DARK MARK APPEARING. SO I SWITCHED TO MY CHIN. SAME AFFECTS. ANY POINTERS? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I am a female in my early thirties, and was a pretty hardcore headbanger from since I was a baby- and like your comment - it included rocking in cars, the singing to myself, etc. I think it is about self soothing and rhythm...I can reassure any parents out there not to get too worried!! I am considered very intelligent (2 Uni Degrees) and creative, social and attractive. I don't headbang anymore, but I do often rock before sleep - it is definitely a comforting/childhood thing and helps me to sleep. I do think maybe us 'headbangers' are perhaps a bit highly strung - but we seem to be a very bright group of people from what I understand - and it is a way (albeit an unusual one!) to calm down.. or process feelings of anxiety or stress. I think a baby may not be neccessarily stressed, but it has just become a soothing way to process life around them and the rhythm helps with sleep. Don't worry parents out there - your child will more than likely be just fine! :) |
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| OMG!! I know this will not help you people years after these posts but you ALL sound like the children needed to be taken to a pediatrician and a developmental psychologist...you could be looking at a disorder/dev. disability where knowing sooner is better for ALL. Don't be scared though, much can help. My "OMG" moment is about how far we have come in awareness of these things in the last few years and it's like looking back in time to the dark ages that no-one has assisted you with this!! I hope all has turned out well. I would be interested to find out!! | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| OMG!! I know this will not help you people years after these posts but you ALL sound like the children needed to be taken to a pediatrician and a developmental psychologist...you could be looking at a disorder/dev. disability where knowing sooner is better for ALL. Don't be scared tough, much can help. My "OMG" moment is about how far we have come in awareness of these things in the last few years and it's like looking back in time to the dark ages that no-one has assisted you with this!! I hope all has turned out well. I would be interested to find out!! | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Do u get angry without ne reason, by ne chance? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My 3 and a half yearold boy started headbanging at six months old he still continues. At 2 he was diagnosed with ASD autism spectrun disorder. He has smashed that many holes in my walls out of frustration, non communication, not getting his own way, anxiety or being impatient. Headbanging is his high to relieving his meltdown, he shows no signs of pain. no remorse ither. take care and take your child to a community health centre to get checked out. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Hi! First of all, let me start by saying that I am forty-something years old, and still have found myself headbanging. It only happens a few times a year, mostly if I am stressed, depressed, or have too much on my mind. But from what I have read about other people, my case seems to be different. I have done this all my life. I used to call it "bouncing my head". I didn't do this out of anger or when I had fits. I didn't do it for the feel of pain. I did this to fall asleep mostly. I would grip the corner of my pillow and bang my forhead on it over and over. I would usually sing while I did this. It was comforting too me. I would say more like a child that sucks his thumb or uses a special blanket for comfort. I was also a big rocker. I would sit in the rocker/recliner chair as a child and get that chair rocking hard, and again I would usually sing to the beat of my rocking. I would also rock in the car on long car rides, again, singing along the way. My parents would say that I would rock so hard the whole car would move! I wish I knew why I have always done this. I came from a stable, loving family. My parents gave me a lot of attention. I don't have anger issues. My grades were fairly good in school. Now I have been happily married for over 20 years, and have a couple happy/healthy children. But it still happens. I'm usually asleep when I do it now, and now I don't sing like I did as a child. My own children have never done this. I do suffer from depression and take meds. for this. Does anyone think the depression and the bouncing of my head have anything to do with one another? Or, is there anyone that has this same problem as me? Again, I don't do this for pain or self-destructive ways, it's more of a comfort/relaxation type thing. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| so do feel bad my son does the same thing and i am trying to figure what why he does this. i think why he does this is because he don't gethis way he starts to bang his head to get my attention. and i have tryed to tell him not to do that because he scare me when hedose that but i don't know what to do about it. if you have any ideas let me know pleaseand thank you. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| i am trying to figure out why my son does it and he is 18 months old and he has done this before he was 17 months old and i have tryed to he him that is not te right thing to do but he seems not to listen to me and some time he acts like he is not even listening to me and he bangs his head when he is mad or when i put him to bed and he has a wooden cribthat my mom uesd for me and my brotherwhen we were little and i am still useing it and my daughter did the same thing but she grewoutof it but her step mom tells me to try to hold him and tell him not to do that and he has done it so many times that he has bruised his forhead because of if | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My daugher is 2 1/2 and started head banging at around 9 months. As soon as i'd started solids with her. We found she was lactose intollerant and also had allergies to wheat and peanuts to name a few. All those were cut off out of her diet and i'd seen improvement, only to have it suddenly start up again. I sought help from professionals and have not found anything to be causing it apart from her being overly emotional and not knowing how to control her emotions so she uses headbanging to relieve that anger! She's also now started hitting herself in the face or digging her nails into her skin. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I would reallky strongly suggest that you insist on him being evaluated at your nearest specialist centre for Autism as your son would definitley fit the criteria from what you have said. I don't wish to alarm you but having an explanation for his difficulties & learning how to deal with them is much better than him growing into adulthood without a diagnosis & therefore no appropriate treatment. You can also join an online group called Autismvoice. Maybe that would be a good place for you to start looking for answers. Children who have an Autism Spectrum Disorder are usually average to well above average intelligence, so along with everything else that you said that is another indication. Please take care & good luck! | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I am a Mental Health professional and recommend that you go to a psychologist who specialises in assessment of Autism spectrum disorders. Your child appears to display behaviours inkeeping with high functioning autism ( aspergers?) this may help to understand his difficulties in the future. regards K | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| What piglet has to say is absolutely accurate when she says: "The sypmtoms you are describing are very similar to those that appear in children that are diagonised with autisim or aspergers syndrome". Autism spectrum disorder and aspergers can appear in people who possess high intellegence and at one end of the spectrum - to those with limited communication or ability to function independantly at the other. Self injurious behaviours such as headbanging or hitting, rocking, repetative movments, obsessions with flicking or spinning often appear in the cluster of classic autistic behaviours. Even acute Autism is often left undiagnosed until the child is three as crawling and walking don't neccesarily come late - but limited eye contact and language skills are latter detected to be arrested. Often autistic children have had a history of middle ear infections and such like that are attributed to slowed develpment at first. With mild autism the child may not be diagnosed at all and instead is labled as "difficult" "dispruptive" or "easily distracted" etc etc. An interesting fact is that many autistic babies in their first year are described as "the perfect baby" - quite undemanding due to a lower need to interact and their tendancy to be "self contained". If head-banging is present in this first year then there is truly an urgent need to seek help. If your child is head-banging then specialist assessment is somthing you should insist upon. This is not "normal behaviour" and it may be caused by pain, an infection, poor communication skills, a mental illness or nurological disorder. Or even dare I say it; poor parenting skills and boundery issues may also be the cause of head-banging persisting. Early intervention is extreamly important - what ever the reason. To those adults who may still be head-banging whilst otherwise living productive lives - I would suggest Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. This would help form less self-destructive ways of express ... |
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| My cousin done it, his niece and nephew done it, and i still do it at the age of 22. For me it's when i'm extremely angry and have no way to express it or release it. The pain seems to help. I don't understand it though. I just hope my daughter won't do it. She punches herself in the head and that's bad enough. She's only 15mths. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| They say that sometimes headbanging is also associated with food intolerance. have a look at www.fedupwithfoodadditive s.com this lady has a lot to say about food additives & how they are likely to make you react. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| The sypmtoms you are describing are very similar to those that appear in children that are diagonised with autisim or aspergers syndrome. These children are very smart & also find it hard to accept human touch & comfort. Speak to a peciatrician who specialises in autism or look up details on the net. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My 3yr old son started headbutting(banging)befor e he turn 1, I have had many of problems with him starting from the age of 2mths. He wouldn't sleep, he was always sick, and I was struggling with Dr's always telling me he would grow out of it... They where wrong, in 1yr he had 11 ear, nose and throat infections, for periods of 5mths I had to fed him medicines, till I hit the roof on one of my weekly trips to the Dr's. I knew something was wrong, I kept telling them that, but got treated like a worried 1st time mother.On the visit I demanded to see a specialist, she looked at me like I was crazy, and I want to scream at her, here you take him home for a week, constanly craming medicines in him, crying all the time in pain, smashing his head on everything in his path, and not sleeping, you try to do that for nearly 2yrs and see how you would react, but all I said was give me a referal or I'm not leaving this room, my son needs help and I won't leave until I have got it, now start typing.... In 2 mins the letter was printed and I was walking out of her room. When we went to the specialist appointment, he had to have an ear op asap. After the op the Dr told me if I hadn't pushed my way to see him my son would have ended up deaf, and i might have ended up in jail...lol.. That fixed the head butting until about 3 weeks ago, now its just him chucking a wooble cuz he can't get his own way but my advise to you all is, if you feel or think something might be wrong you stand your ground and demand to see a specialist, your childs health is worth it. If the child is 100% healthly make them wear a helmet like I'm trying to get my son to do.... (with no luck) Be strong.. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Hi, my now 12 yr old son started this behavior at a very early age, at about 3-4 mos I noticed that he would hit his head on his bed or bassinette. At 4-6 mos he learned to sit up and thus throw himself forward or backward in rage tantrums. He did this until he was almost 4 yrs old. When he learned to walk he learned to throw himself face first or backwards from a standing position. I often brought it up to his doctor but was always told that he would never hurt himself. I now notice that he has a very hard time adjusting to change. He has a hard time in crowds and lacks the need of human touch. If we try to hug him or touch him he says it hurts. I have asked many doctors if this is a concern. They seem to think it is something that he will "outgrow" with puberty. I am still waiting for this to happen. The only upside to all of his behaviors is that he is very smart tests to have above average intellegence. There are days that I wish for an average intellengce, to have a kid that could play and interact with others well. If you notice any other symptoms that do not seem right keep asking for answers.... maybe some day a medical professional may not think you are an overbearing parent. This I am still waiting for also. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Make sure you return those shopping trolley mate. They don't belong to you. Headbanging is very old fashioned. Try moshing and crowdsurfing. Much more fun, if done safely. To the person below with the little girl. Try and educate her as you would if they are too near the stove. Keep repeating HOT, HOT, HOT. Hopefully they will learn the difference. That's what my sister did with her son. He never went near the stove as a toddler. Just a simple right and wrong tactic. Good luck |
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