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| ps- re the smartie bribe (love smarties by the way- but they taste different in Aus than in the UK?)..anyway.....no, dont get into bribing- or they grow up thinking they need to get a reward for doing things well- and it doesnt help to develop an instrinsic motivation to do things well, and be the best person they can be. Rewarding is fab- we all love that- but reward after a job well done- not to get them to do something. And reward for effort- not just outcome- and remember that reward can be a smile, hug, kiss- it doesnt have to be 'things'. Rewarding every time of course isnt productive...do it when really warranted, and make sure they understand exactly what it is you are rewarding/ praising. Bribing does work short term- but you can end up having to negotiate bigger and better things- and we dont want short term fixes do we? We want things to work long term! (but dont stress- the odd time isnt going to do them any harm ) Emma:-) aka The Child Listener |
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| Im replying to the ping pong in the loo trick- how wonderful- always make things like this fun and dont stress. Certainly dont punish- just because they arent performing as and when you want. I work with children, teens and families and am known as 'The Child Listener'- I listen to kids for a living, and help parents learn to guide children through life, rather than teach (or preach). One of the most common questions I ask parents is' and how much fun have you been to be around lately?' Trust me, parents who are able to relax and have fun have much happier and well adjusted kids- long term- and some of them get themselves toilet trained quickly- and some don't! They all get there in the end- and usually much quicker when you make things exciting and let them do things in their own time. Life's too short- dont be in such a hurry to go from one stage of development to the next. Enjoy them! In no time at all they're all grown up........:-) Ping pong in the loo- love it- Im going to share that with my clients!- I bet my son would find it hillarious (who cares that he's been toilet trained for years- he'd love it!) Emma aka The Child Listener Emma Hartnell-Baker BEd Hons, MA, Cert Life Coaching |
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| Our son was toilet trained in 2 weeks!!! No lie.....used a new product to Australia called Peter Potty. It replicates a urinal. My wife was trying to get him to sit but wee was going everywhere and it was upsetting him. This potty has a flush at the top and the wee and water goes in a draw. It is great, he stands up like me which I think back now is what he was trying to do but we kept sitting him down. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Dont worry about him. Most people who claim to have their children toilet trained before about 3-4yrs have actually subconsiously trained themslves read the signs and get the child to the toilet before they do anything and believe that the child is doing it themselves. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| my son is 3 and a half and still not toilet trained. He will go sometimes but mostly he will just refuse. I praise him when he does and he seems pleased with himself,so why doesn't he keep doing it? I ask him if he needs to go and he says no even though ican see he is filling his pants.or moments later he will ask to have dry pants on. should we take a break or keep going? |
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| I know many people won’t agree with this, but have you ever thought about bribing him??? We used to get a smartie, (only one) and it worked. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My boys went against the norm compared to my daughter. She was 2 1/2 and endured 6 months of 'training' inflicted on her by my MIL who insisted I was stupid for not starting at 18 months. She defied her in ways I could only dream of right down to getting off the toilet and wetting the witches shoes whilst peeing her pants. That was the day the MIL gave up and a few weeks later my little girl announced she didn't need a nappy any more and was day and night 'trained'. The boys on the other hand were left to get on with it alone. My eldest was out of day nappies at 22 months by his choice, the youngest was 2 years and 1 month. All I did was wait for them to make the decision. I was lucky - don't expect him to do something he is not ready to do yet. As my DD proved they will only defy you if they aren't ready for it. He'll get there. |
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| i think that ping pong idea is really good, if i have a son i will defintly try that idea..thanks | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| i brought my 2 year old a speacial pink potty and we brought cool stickers and we put them on the potty together and made it a real big fun thing, it was heaps fun, i stoped buying nappys and she just either went or peed on the floor after a few acidents she learnt, and has been fully toilet trained ever since! HE has to want to go, | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| My mother told me that boys get toilet trained later than girls so with my son I waited till he was 2. One of his birthday presents was a potty. I let him walk around naked for a few days and when I saw him peeing I quickly ran over placing the potty under him and praising him for the few drops that landed in it. When I managed to get him to sit on it and have him actually pee in it I gave him a special sweet treat. Something he only ever got if he pee'd in the potty. After 2 months of giving him the treats I weaned him off them. (Temporary thing). It has now been 5 months since I started and he now sleeps at day and night with no more nappies. He is only 2 1/2 years old. He goes to the adults toilet with a special kids seat so he doesnt fall in and I wake him at midnight to go to the toilet and that sees him through till morning. Cheers, Lisa |
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| Hmm...I did this ping pong ball in the loo trick with my little guy to improve his aim. He seems fascinated with the game, catching on to the idea very quickly, and now won't let me remove the ball at all. (Don't worry, the ball remains floating during the flush cycle) No more scrubbing the walls and floor to remove errant tinkle trails, no more target practice at the spare paper roll on top of the systern, he's pretty good at aiming it now and likes to show off his new talent to anyone available. So does anyone have a game related idea on how to train him to lower the seat? All I have been able to come up with so far is a mild punishment, but even that may be a little harsh judging by the trembling lip and pleading tone in his voice when I admonish him. I've just been banning golf and taking his Porsche keys away for a week. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Well now I guess I'm not the only mother going through this. My son is 4 years old and is still having trouble going to the toilet. I started him when he was 2 and have tried and tried with him, but bribery doesn't seem to work with my son. At the moment he is slowly getting there, but he is not aiming for the toilet, instead he takes his pants off and does it outside or sometimes he would do it where he stands! But only at home, thank god. I think I had a son and not a dog! I have a 1 year old girl and I will be starting with her around christmas time, thank god she is a girl too... | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| wow, well you are lucky, my son just turned 3 and he still not toilet trained. i say when you will go toilet for mummy, and he say before lol, and another response is 14 (he also loves us 14)lol. but it is getting frustrating, cause he a samrt boy besides this problem, all 3 my girls were fully toilet trained by 3 with dry by night, so is it normal for them to be older than 3. i dont want to stress him or upset him, but scared he never get toilet trained. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| my boy was over 2 and i ws worried. i bought him a tommy turtle step and a plastic toilet seat of his own , he loved to stand on his tommy turtle step. i would try the ping pong balls. i know its bribry but i promised him a small gift (matchbox car)inthm days an i think it was worth it. just wish i kept cars as he is now 31 years old and doesnt need toilet training. ha ha . | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| the reason i was trying to toilet train him is because i had so many people say to me how old is he and i would tell them and they would say is he toilet trained yet and i would say no and the lokks that i would get i felt so ashamed of my self but thanks to alot of people i dont feel so bad now and just for the recored he has started to want to sit on the potty so we are having a fun time now thanks everyone for your input | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| WOW he isnt even 2 yet. I think maybe he isnt ready and that trying to potty train kids too early sets you up for a lot of stress and lots of probable bed wetting. I tried training my youngest at 2 and he got it after a while but he continued wetting his bedevery night till he was 6 and we had to get and alarm sheet. My 3 yr old has just started but Im taking it at his pace and when hes ready itll click | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Toilet training at 2...many kids are not toilet trained until they are 3 to 5. I would not worry. The old rule of thumb with toilet training is don't start thinking about toilet training if kids cannot pee on demand or stop mid stream! You must have controll first! |
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| Don't get too stressed about it as boys tend to take a bit longer to get to it than do girls so don't let other mothers fet you stressed about it. It will click in one day and he will be so proud of himself so praise him if he does it right but don't be hard on him if he doesn't. Our 2 boys took nearly 2 years to get there properly Cheers |
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| Try putting a ping pong ball in the toilet and let him aim for it and don't forget to praise him when he does go | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Toilet training should be fun for both of you, especially him. Try investing in some stickers, you can give him one, or get him to put one on a sheet of paper on the back of the toilet door every time he goes. Also, when you ask him whether or not he needs to go, try and time it so that he isn't in the middle of playing until he gets used to it. The less like a hassle it is for him the more he will respond. Does he go to day care? Often playing with other kids that are going to the toilet themselves is a huge help. Other than that just give him time. He will do everything when he is ready. Goodluck =) |
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| hi my little boy is 21months and im having teribble trouble trying to get him to toilet train he wont even sit on the potty and if i ask him if he needs to got to the toilet he always tells me no and then i find i puddle of water or his pants are wet i dont know what to do or where to start PLEASE HELP!!! |
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