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| Im a single dad, i have a happy healthy 3 year old daughter, free parenting courses abound which are freely available, step out of the square and mix it up a bit. Children do not have the same eating habits as adults, nor should they. Let them live as children but still give them health. Turn it upside down. Cake and milk for breakfast sometimes, dinner eg chicken for lunch, sandwiches for dinner and cereal for dessert. Some suggestions for snacks include jelly cups with fruit, all of the sliced meats like roast beef, polony, chicken, silverside even roll up some twisties in them, bread with peanut butter and strawberry jam, cheese, make some ice blocks together water and ribena cordial and you know what even Mcdonalds once a week. |
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| Hello my child also will not eat anything but chicken nuggets and cereal. He will eat very little tiny bites if he eats anything. Accept the things I know he loves like mac and cheese. Did anyone ever respond with any good ideas? It frusterates my husband so much to watch him eat he wont eat with us any longer. Its sad i want my family dinners back at our table. Jaggarjane@aol.com |
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| Things have certainly changed thats for sure! I had to eat all or go without desert and things like that. But with my kids I dont push anymore, as one of my girls has severe allergies, and I am scared to force her to eat. My other kids I will force slightly more because I know there ok. |
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| Hi, I feel for you, I have a six year old girl who has hated to eat since she was just over 1! But we have discovered over the years that she has allot of allergies, and a severe allergy (anaphlaxis) to all nuts. She is allergic to things like soy, chicken, bananas. If you think there is a possibility speak to your GP about it and see what they say. Good Luck. |
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| Quick question... Does anyone remember growing up at home and refusing what you were given for dinner??? We ate what we were given, or we went hungry. Nowadays, kids have way too many options. My 7 yr old eats whats put in front of him, or he goes to bed with an empty stomach. 99.99% of time, he finishes all of his dinner... he eats what we eat (unless of course it's a hot curry or something like that.) Don't get me wrong, I am not a nasty, horrible mother, but I do believe in "old-school" discipline. Give them no other option but what's in front of them. And always give positive encouragement for eating the right foods.. it works fine for us. You just really have to be 110% consistent... dunno, maybe it'd work for other people - just my opinion... |
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| Hi. My sister had an gluten allergy that stopped her growing properly for ages and she always felt sick, had ear infections, diarhoea.etc. The doctors said there was nothing wrong with her though. At the beggining of this year the same thing happened to me & the doctors had the same reaction, so I know all about it. If your child often feels ill, I would think she has an allergy to something. Gluten is the protein of wheat found in wheat, rye, oats, barley and other derivatives like starch & malt. Farmers use 90% more gluten in bread than they used now, resulting in many more people being allergic to gluten. Doctors blood tests cannot always determine whether your child has an allergy, no matter what they might say. The only definite way to make sure is to have a biopsy, which is risky. Your child could also be lactose intolerant or allergic to anything really, get her tested, but dont rely on the test results for the definite answer. If you dont have any luck, take her off the possible allergy containing foods one by one for periods of 1-2 weeks to see what she's allergic to. Remember, being allergic to something can make you alllergic to to other foods too. Gluten intolerance if not found can have terrible affects on your child, including the ability to fall pregnant later on in life. If your child is allergic to something, I would advise you to get the whole family tested for it too, allergies can be genetic. If you do need special food, you can buy it at Coles, Franklins and Woolworths. P.S. Many people refuse to beieve that their child is gluten intolerant because they think it would be too hard to cater for, but it is worth it in the end. |
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| My son will only eat buttered noodles too...I am having a very difficult time...he's losing weight, will not eat even the foods he likes...he says he's afraid of growing up and dying...we've tried to explain to him about getting sick and all that stuff....been to doctor behavioral therapy for over a year...still nothing....need some advice | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| With this sitiation you and the childrens Father need to work together a united front so to speak... if your son is doing this for attention it appears he is NOT coping at the custody arrangementrs this needs to be looked at.. maybe things need to be changed a little to help your son cope.. we as parents are meant to do what is best for our children so maybe you and their Father need to look at what needs to happen to ease his stress... l think to that l would take him to see a theropist to help him work on why he does this... l understand this is hard for you thats why l think maybe it's time for a ittle outside help... good luck.. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I really wish that I was able to..the thing is that I do not have my kids on a full time basis and I know the reason why he does the stuff that he does is because he is trying to regress to how he was when he was a baby. Back then, he always had my fulltime attention and now he doesn't due to custody situation. I feel as if he were to eat on his own, he would take one bite and then he would be done ..which he really would! He is never hungry and never wants anything to eat. As a mother, I don't feel that it is enough, neither one of them barely eat at daycare and they hate to snack also. I know that I should just stop but feel so bad!!!!!!!! | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Dish the food up as normal every meal time and sit and eat yours.. don't fed your 5 year old this has become a bad habit that he has gotten into, when you are done leave the table and if the kids get up without eating remove their plates and say nothing if they ask for food give them their plates. If they still don't eat it don't offer anything else but let them go without, they WILL NOT starve themselves they will eat enough to keep going, maybe you could give them a child multi vitamin tab to compensate for what they lack in.... most of all be strong and don't give in they need to see that you mean bussiness.. l'm sorry to hear that this was such a huge issue that it played a part in you getting divorced.. you need to do something now before this habit gets anymore out of hand... | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I have a 4 year old daughter and a 5 year old son! My son since birth always hated to eat or drink.. From day one, he would not take any milk from my breats and then it was always a huge struggle to give himn milk from a bottle. He also constantly threw up , whatever I was able to get inside of him. Feedings(including 1 milk bottle) lasted up to 2 hours. I took him to doctors and had every test performed on him to see if something was wrong. ~to make a long story short..nothing was wrong. Now he is 5 and eats like a bird and also has only a tiny , tiny selection of foods that he does eat. The worst part of it all, he insists on being fed. He wont even eat alone. He stops after like 2 bites and is never hungry. Ariella, his younger sister, has also adopted the same poor eating habits as he,she copies everything that he does. This issue actually was one of the causes of my divorce. What would you do? |
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| continued: the mum with the kid who says 'it hurts to eat '? if the kid can eat cookies [which are a hard food] but complains of hurting during soft fruits and veg i'd say the kid is playing you ....not true ...sit the kid down and say eat now! if it hurts for all foods ......go to a doctor asap ...get any possible thing checked for an make sure its not a physical problem. and all others - any child suddenly loosing wieght is dangerous .....if your kid is upset about any food ...see a doctor .... i know a gal whos daughter stopped eating EVERYTHING very suddenly ,complaining of a sore throat ...turned out she was forcing herself to gag whenever she was fed [at 4yrs old].....this caused her to develop a childs form of anorexia and made her so thin she was nearly hospitalised ....she was forced into a healthy eating program at her local hospital ...where they began wieghing her regularily ,showing her how to eat and what to eat ...and most of all keeping her with both psychiatrists and pedeatricians so she would be managed .....she is now 6 [she is a month younger than my girl] and healthy but still being monitored every few months [she has a program at school which also helps ]............:) goodluck all :) michelle:) |
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| ok i read through this thread and wanted to try and help ....i personally have not encountered this problem with my own 2 kids [a girl shes 6 and boy hes 8 ]...but i babysit weekly[2 afternoons] for a mate alot and am always asked why these kids suddenly want more 'healthy foods'? my trick is they eat what mine eat or nothing ........you can try this .....invite a mate over for your child ,for a playdate ,and prepare a snack .....i usually put an assortment of foods on the dinner table and leave bowls for the kids to use [let them pick what they want themselves ].....usually i make a plate of carrot sticks ,some grapes and/or strawberries and mandarines [readily peeled and divided] , rice crackers or pretzels[not as fatty as potato chips] and some juice to drink . the kids tend to try and copy mine [my two love raw carrot]and when they begin eating the other kids pick generally whatever mine eat. also have any of you with school aged children asked if they have a healthy eating campaign in the school ?...we have the 'fun yum club '[you can google them] aswell as the kids who bring a veg /fruit snack everyday get a point[per healthy snack] on a chart ....whoever gets the most points wins a little prize on friday. these simple strategies are easy to get implemented ....another problem may be if you are stressed or anxious while the child is eating ....they may sense this ....and if when you seem agitated you may seem to 'give up' enforcing the food rule ,a kid will know that [they are pretty sneaky and clever that way]......have an afternoon where you boil some veg or prepare a fruit platter and sit down [one on one] and show them how they can hold the food ....let them cut it ,taste it ,in an exploring manner not a stressful one .... if all else fails ....put your foot down !no food until they eat the good aswell with the bad ....simple .... my kids dont eat everything but at least try and get two types of veg and three types of fruit introduced ... |
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| Have you had any luck with getting your child to eat I am having the same problem and it is just tearing up apart I need some advise or some help. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| When I was little I sensed mum and dad where out of control having argued in front of me, not just them but what I saw on the news the world was in chaos. The only power and sense of control I had was over what I ate. I ate very little and I was known to eat a pie at school for say two years then hot chips for the next year virtually nothing else. This may not be your childs problem but maybe of some of the other readers. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| We still have insticts from thousands of years ago so we are desperate that our children eat but back then it was because if they didn't they may not survive until the next meal, especially in winter. We now live in a time (and place, if you're on the internet!) of plenty, so it is unlikely that your child will perish before eating again!!! | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| eproell and others, I am so sorry you're having such a hard time!! Most of the advice here is very good. Yes, how much kids eat will fluctuate with growth spurt, stress etc. so most of the time it's not worth giving yourself an ulcer over. The point about not having stress associated with food was a good one. Kids often will listen to a family friend, the TV or the computer more than their parents. See if you can use this to your advantage in getting the message accross to them about how important food is and how enjoyable it can be...there are lots of kids food programs and web-sites. Allergies and sensitivities can have this effect, they can also fall on the other side and be stimulated to over-eat. I would suggest (in the more severe cases like eproell) that 1st go to a GP and ask for a blood test for everything from the big nasties like leukemia to the everyday annemia. 2nd eliminate all gluten, dairy, yeast, things with concenrated sugar, the bad additives etc (there are some that are quite fine) and citrus. Omit for a few weeks, then test one thing out at a time by giving them lots of one thingfor one or two days, stop and repeat trial in 10-14 days. This is so if you see the same thing happen at both trials it's probably the food rather than a "co-incidence" symptom. You will know if that thing is okay for your kid or not. I know this is a pain in the kazoo but it can litterally SAVE YOUR CHILD'S LIFE, so well worth it in the end. If nothing turn's up in the blood-tests and all foods seem to be fine then it really is time to go see a specialist and I mean top-knotch. Also if your child is one of those that may have developmental delays, ASD etc. food can be a huge issue/drama. Check with relevant associations e.g. Autism assoc. to see if they can give guidance to your situation. Good-luck everyone!! |
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| I have this problem with my five year old. Her idea of breakfast is to take a bite out of her sandwich. Fruit and veg, her idea of eating these is to give a quick lick. Anyway I was in the chemist today and I came across a product called Vegebuddies. They are gummi bears filled with organicaly grown vegetable and fruit concentrates. When I opened the pack they looked and smelled rather gross and I thought their is no way she'll eat these. But guess what Ive had to hide the packet from her as she loves them. They cost $17.99 for 90. |
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| My 18 year old daughter has always been below average weightfor her height, but always fit and healthy. As a todler she would eat anything, including all fruits and vegies. Around age 3, she started to refuse ALL fruits. We went through Kindy and the rest of her childhood with her eating raw vegies instead of fruit. To this day, she still refuses nearly all fruit (will eat small amounts of watermelon and will eat freshly picked blackberries). She tells me that the smell, sight and even sound of someone else eating fruit makes her feel nauseous. Bannanas are the worst. The only possible trigger I can think of is that at around the time she stopped eating fruit, she had a bout of hives from long life orange juice, that cleared in about 20 minutes! She will drink juice, but only apple & blackcurrent juice. Luckily, as she would always eat any vegetables I have given her, this hasn't been an insurmountable problem. |
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| sneak something grated in the buttered noodles | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Try getting in the pool or bath with him, a small plate of snacks, just small bite size pieces cheese, fruit, capsicum etc, close eyes guess what food it is, finish small amount get treat, next time bath on own, sml snacks, perhaps icecream. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I have found that occassionally one or more of my kids took on something similar to what you have described. You will find that a well planned outing in the park where by the child gets well excercised works wonders. I have made fresh fruit smoothies, blended fruit varietis with juice, no other additives, freeze in shapes. Further: rissoles with grated carrot, zuchini, capsicum and onion. Lettuce rolled up around the rissols to serve, or tuna etc. A cake of SF flour, butter, honey, golden syrup, egg, grated zuchinni, carrot, nuts, dried fruit or fresh, in the oven on 160 C. |
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| I am going through the same thing with my 6 year old son. i have taken him to several doctors and they just seem to blow me off. One even told me that I was a bad parent because I could not get him to eat. I am afraid that something will happen. I have tried everything. He is afraid of food. He will even make himself throw up if food is put in his mouth. He is at the point that he is getting sick alot and stays sleepy. I am desperate. if you have found anything out please contact me at eproell2@yahoo.com. Thank you | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| I agree. When I want to introduce something new to my 7 years old , I simply starve him.. .meaning that i present it when he is realy hungry [like at the beach or pool] and there is no other alternative. He now eats 3-4 other types of fruits except a banana.I also give a multi vitamin to my children and every now and then i manage to hide flaxeed oil [tastless and odorless]in ice cream, yogurt or fruit juice. SOUP also goes well all year long as long as it is well mashed and served with croutons or pretzels. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Hi there ,are you sure she hasnt been watching some TV show or had someone say, "dont eat too much or you'll get fat" or thereabouts. Girls are getting very self conscious about their weights at a very young age now and I certainlly hope your girl isnt one of them. Please have a chat to her before she does herself some real damage. Good luck. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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