By: missmalta1962
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When i had my kids i told i did not have to work till the kids are 16, now the law in last 2 years has changed and we have to work at 7 year of younger baby.I find this law so unfair, as they want me to miss out on kids sports days there merrit award days sport days, they want me not to spend the hoildays with my kids, have you ever been to a school and see how sad kids are that there parants are not there on these days, then they want me to put my kids in day care and my rent goes up if i work as i live in houseing, also my kids have been in hospitial 6 times from dirty day cares, the last time they got herbies in there mouth as the day care had foot and mouth and chicken pox as they washed there toys once a week, so can you tell me what to do as this is unfair and it is not in the best interest of small kids, to be faulsed to go to school before time, go to day care, and for me, i will not cope spending money on petrol food for work,coming home to cook do the house, as i have no family and no one to help me , i had a heart operation, i have promblems in my knee's that keep me awake,
and i can not handle to see tears in my kids eyes when i tell them i will never watch there hat perade and they can not spend holidays with them |
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By: ecchi.gaijin
24/09/2008
10:14 am Yahoo! Profile:
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| Perhaps we should start taking the concepts of marriage and having children a little more seriously in future then? These are not rights, they are responsibilities and responsibilities have consequences. |
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By: smbrown1012
23/09/2008
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| Most of these women complain all the time, but they don't tell you that at time of divorce settlement they given it all or the majority of the assets, then they take a second dip every month in child support. The man is clean out of cash in the divorce court and then is unable get ahead because of child support payments. Look in any marriage break up there are always sides and they both are losers. |
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By: s.sharonann
18/09/2008
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| It's a difficult situation for both sides. Not all parents that have their kids alone do so by choice, but the expectation is that the other parent is equally responsible for their welfare. Each child has an expectation of some lifestyle not merely existing. Sometimes it's even simple stuff like having tuchshop once a week. When you live on the edge, even that is a luxury. Do you know how often single mums are discriminated against in the workforce when they haven't benn in it for awhile? Hmm food for thought. |
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By: ecchi.gaijin
15/09/2008
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| Rod, the bitterness in your words suggests you may be on the receiving end of just such a situation. Don't take it out on other posters if you LITERALLY f@cked up your own life. |
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By: rodskinner100
13/09/2008
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"If anyone feels so oppossed to paying for or supporting their children then don't have sex. Sex is not a game without responsibility".
- You have obviously missed the point entirely my dear, but your comment and attitude is noted. Unsurprisingly, your "...then don't have sex" shaming remark fails to recognise the equal responsibility encumbent upon workshy mothers who all too often rest back on government welfare, then have the added audacity to hold out their other hand for even more free cash in the form of (often) crippling child support payments levelled against the responsible other "parent" (who actually bothered to get, and maintain...paid employment).
"...then Don't have sex?" Sure! Great advice, a real pearl of wisdom there. With luck, ALL the "irresponsible" targets of your comment will take your advice onboard and not have sex. Not with you, not with your friends, not with anyone willing to betray their children with false rhetoric and selfishness...shallowly and disgustingly disguised as genuine concern.
After all, there are certainly plenty of alternatives available in the duty free section of the store, where the "responsibility" you speak of is not Legislatively a one way street able to be exploited for selfish personal gain by the morally weak. Chinese takeaway anyone? |
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By: maria_hugoau
14/05/2008
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| i would like to say that it is a great letter and many times children are better off with one mother who takes good care than having 2 parents arguing. I am a single parent of a boy who is very clever and polite. |
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By: c_mabait99
14/05/2008
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| do not argue guys on who's who should get our taxes....lets face it, most of us are tax payers and our taxes goes to other families who needed support for different reason.....why dont we put our selves into their shoe? that one day, those families who gets our taxes, it will be US one day.....in short, tax payer will get their taxes back if we lose our jobs, have accident, our spouses die, etc.... |
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By: kathleendorrigo
12/11/2007
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| Keep your chin up baby there's heaps of us in the same boat look after your mama I am really sure my daughter feels just like you do. People like you will grow up and create a better society. These people on this site for the most part are unfeeling and immoral. You are not. Take care. Sit by the beach and let yourself believe in you in the end you are the stronger one than those who just put others down. |
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By: nessa_sarily_so
3/08/2007
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Any parent faces the chance that at any moment they might become a single parent...your partner could have a work accident...bang you are a single parent!
If anyone feels so oppossed to paying for or supporting their children then don't have sex. Sex is not a game without responsibility. |
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By: smart.moves2000
24/07/2007
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I believe that most here do not realize that there are fathers that are single parents and compete very well in the all sectors of society. Further I also understand the difficulties of raising a child and providing a stable home and environment for yourself and family. Yes, there are those that do not take responsibility for their children and this too is unfortunate not only for the child but for the parents as well. But I also understand that many times it may be in the best interest of the child and the family that no contact of relationship is sought. Understandably, it is every parent’s responsibility to provide a secure and stable future as well as a home, food, clothing, education, health and welfare. All too many people have turned away from the responsibility of our youth all privileges and right as citizens and the future heads of our countries. I further believe that it not only is the responsibility of the parents but the social responsibilities of all citizens to guarantee protection, liberty, education, health, home and the understanding that we all are family whether we are of the same genealogical bloodline or not we are here one and all.
I would not wish any less for one child or another under any conditions.
I would never deny any child any of the above no should the parents of that child, whether they are physically involved in the childs life or not.
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By: firefly7089
24/07/2007
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| As for your statement..I beg to differ! I became a single mother after my husband passed away. |
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By: holden095
23/07/2007
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all un married mothers should read this one . get of your bums and do some thing insted of saying poor me, and if you cant suport your selfs keep your legs closed and stop breading
great work to who did this one . could not have said this better my self |
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By: holden095
23/07/2007
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CSA will not let you have a life un till he or she is 18.
you get less for murrder.
the more you earn the more you have to pay so tell me how dose that work CSA is bull *** dont get me wrong i do beleave you should pay but hay there has to be a limit and you should have a life .no on should live in hell and yet this is what CSA want you to do |
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By: gocyolu
23/07/2007
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Sandrajarjar
Re-read my message.
And whay should I stay at a place where I am not happy? where I am seen as a "ATM" machine for the x and a "work machine" for the State? My point here is; the judge was wrong. The child didnt tuýrn out to be "educated, responsible and productive child". The case was another " divide and rule " case. I feel sorry for australian people, majority of marriages end in divorce. CSA threatens to prevent me from leaving australia but I have the chance to live somewhere else. What about all those people who cant leave australia for a better life elsewhere? If my child was with me she would definately go to University and a have a good profession by now.. |
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By: sandrajarjar
21/07/2007
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| and as for you baby boy what would you know , itd the men who leave never stay and be a man . |
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By: sandrajarjar
21/07/2007
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| i think you should have stayed for the child , nobody forced you to come here . |
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By: whowhathwhere
21/07/2007
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you know what, im a 22 yr old male and i have a FT job and a mortgage. Unlike some people who just cant keep their legs closed !! single parents, shame shame shame !!!!
yes, if all of those men could just keep their pants on, there wouldn;t be any single mothers. Shame on those men, shame. |
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By: ebaydonny
21/07/2007
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| and if girls kept their legs closed you would have to use your hand shame shame shame |
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By: weirdos_au
21/07/2007
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| you know what, im a 22 yr old male and i have a FT job and a mortgage. Unlike some people who just cant keep their legs closed !! single parents, shame shame shame !!!! |
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By: gocyolu
20/07/2007
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My case is quite different: I left University studies and migrated to Australia in 1984. I was persuaded by my ex-wife that our life would be better in OZ (I must add she is an un educated woman). The moment we landed in OZ my wifes attitude towards me changed. She had no idea about culture shock. She fell pregnant ( nothing was asked to me as to whether I wanted a child or not!) and gave birth in october 1986.Following great arguments, involvement of police (I knew nothing about australian culture)she left home after a couple of weeks. I was left to fend for myself in an entirely different culture. I fell into depression.
I left the country because if I had stayed I would be in deep trouble for everytime I wanted to form a relationship with my child, my x would find a way to start an argument and call the police.
I continued my studies and developed my skills. In 1992, I found out that she had the custody of the child. Nothing was asked to me. The court order said that " for the childs benefit the cýstody was given to my x).
I offered her to come to Turkey and that I would takle care of the child here and she would be better off here.
She declined.
Now, the child left school at year ten, started smoking, is now 21, her name has been changed at the age of 3 without my consent. She has no skills. I was not able to make payments of 60 dollars per week for most of the time I was in Turkey. When I lived in Australia I paid.
Now my x wants about 80 thousand dollars! CSA has been trying to get money off me for years (money that I never had).I have almost no relationship with the child. Despite numerous attempts to form a relationship all they ever wanted was MONEY..I was never consulted in what school she should go to (not that I am religious but) she was sent to a catholic school! I was born a muslim..CSA threatens to prevent me from leaving australia if I go there!. Just what my x wants- pay money but never get involved with the child! The story is long... |
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By: aparame
17/07/2007
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| you are very lucky indeed not to involve with your ex-partner. you are very courageous woman and keep you head up all the time. the fact of the matter is you work hard and now paying a mortgage. but look at the other person, can only afford to pay $1.68 per child per fortnight. what a loser. he must be really a lost soul, on the dole and don the drugs and grogs |
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By: magikstar01
14/07/2007
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| I would just like to reply to the "most children who are bought up just by their mothers turn out to be criminals or delinquents".. Well, I am a single mother and have been for 18 years and I have the best well mannered decent children, a son who is 18 and a daughter who is 13. My son is a good kid, never been involved with the police, doesnt smoke or drink. He has also been working for the last 3 years. Usually the kids that turn out to be criminals are the ones that have two parents (I dont mean that to every family out there) - as they are too involved with each other to even care about where their kids are or to the main extent who they are hanging around with. Kids dont need a dad if they have a mother who cares and who knows how to do 'so called Dad things' as in mechanics, etc. They certainly dont need a father if he is a loser (thats when the kids grow up just like their Dads). Usually kids see how their father acts and want to be like him. I am so glad the father of my children doesnt want to see them - I was mad at first but then thought they are better off.I always told my kids that if they ever wanted to see him they just had to speak up and let me know. They have a fantastic Grandfather and a fantastic Uncle so they dont need a no hoper drug bag to be around spending every bit of money he can to get his own fix. Us Single Parents do a great job raising our kids and you dont need money when you have a lot of love for your kids. Obviously, you just want some time out. I have never wanted time out from my kids life as you see they are my life. So many women want the Dad to see the children (mainly money reasons)but more to the fact that they can go out and have a good time. Well I am sorry but you can have a good time with your children, if you cant you should never have had them. Dont degrade us Sole Parent mothers.Yes, I get child support too-a measly $1.68per child a fortnight and I am buying my house.Just a Mum can raise her kids right if she knows how ... |
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14/07/2007
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By: wolframtrader
14/07/2007
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I am a guy. Not married. No children. Mid 30's. Live and work overseas. Probably sacrified children and marriage, etc for my career (read yes!). I was fortunate to grow up in a family with a mother and father, who are still together today, 35+yrs on.
Now for brass tacks
I support full criminalisation of Child Support Orders. Any non payment / default should be listed upon the offendees credit file. There also needs to be an ancilliary or supplementary (meaningful) financial support for single parents with children who have special needs.
But there needs to be substantially better education on the effect/cost/benefit/negat ives of having children. The most "wonderful thing in the world" comes with the consequences of actions taken. Families/couples need to understand the effect and consequences on having children. It is no good pretending or not knowing after the fact that your life is screwed financially and socially if that is not what you wanted.
People need to take responsibility for their actions on all fronts... |
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